How to know your sex language
SEX is an integral part of human life, an individual personality expressed. Knowing one’s sex language can lead to sexual desires, and bring you closer to your spouse.
Most couples know about their love languages but not many really know their sex languages.
Discovering your desire, motivation and that of your spouse for a better sex, can deepen your connection, reduce friction over sex, leading to a more satisfying intimate experience.
Sex language is the new way to talk and think about personal sexual pleasure. Being aware of one’s sex language can make a whole difference between a roaring good time in the sheets, and not feeling fulfilled in this critical area of your sexual life with your partner.
Sex language essentially describes how one likes to be spoken to in the bedroom.
Almost all couples will love to speak the same language as their spouse when it comes to intimacy.
The act of love making can be a bit of hit and miss if you don’t know how to connect and engage partner sex’s drive before, during and after copulation.
There are five different types of sex languages and here’s how to know which one you are:
Fun/Creativity- This sex language is just that of pleasurable fun; it is accentuated when you mix fun with lovemaking with somebody who wants to have a creative moment. They believe that the best intercourse should be spontaneous-the type that’s unplanned.
Creativity is about expression of imagination and can be great fun, with costumes and role play; include those who enjoy a giggle, a romp and a playful spirit.
Creativity and variety are the names of the game: so if fun is your sex language, it means you will like to copulate in different sex positions and locations.
Desire- This is about needing signs that you are wanted and it’s heightened if they feel pursued and wooed. They appreciate when their significant other tries to seduce them as part of desiring him/her. This is easily achieved through a chat message. Their pleasure is to know you want them sexually.
Pleasure- Your lover will need to learn how to please you, experiment through sexploration to find out what gives you the most sexual pleasure. Exploration can be expanded to include kink, sensory stimulation and romance.
Kink is the desire to explore things that aren’t considered sexual in the bedroom like BDSM, fetishes, voyeurism and exhibitionism.
The sensory stimulation on the other hand is for those who desire for all of their senses to get some attention; from being mindful of music, lighting, the feel of the sheets, scents and food/drink-all affect their sexual mood.
With romance, they get their groove on, when their lover gives them grand gestures; holidays, candlelit dinners, poetic language, slow dances, picnics and whispers of sweet nothings.
Patience- Take your time, slow it down, a situation where a partner longs for things to be taken slowly and not rushed. Invest in time for prolonged leadup and to be able to enjoy massages, cuddling, gentleness before, during and afterwards.
Acceptance/Celebration- A feeling of being loved, accepted and celebrated by their spouses for their entirety during every phase of the act. Not just for their bodies and sexuality, but that, every facet of you is accepted. Being valued makes intercourse more satisfying for this partner.
Learning your sex language and that of your darling will help give one another a pleasurable sex for a lifetime. It will also make sex easier than ever!
