Five signs your child may be pregnant under your roof
Navigating the journey of parenthood often involves tackling sensitive issues, including the possibility of teenage pregnancy.
In Nigeria, where traditional values and societal norms heavily influence family dynamics, discovering that your child might be pregnant could be alarming and challenging.
However, what parents do when they discover their teenage girls are pregnant, experts have noted, can change the dynamics as it is more important than the discovery itself.
According to the National Demographic and Health Survey, in 2021, about 14 per cent of Nigerian girls aged began childbearing aged 15 to 19.
This includes both births and pregnancies. The rate varies by region, with some areas showing higher rates.
Also, the United Nations Population Fund reports that Nigeria has one of the highest rates of teenage pregnancies in sub-Saharan Africa.
Approximately 10 per cent of Nigerian adolescents give birth before the age of 18.
Teenage pregnancy rates are notably higher in the northern region of Nigeria than in the South.
In some northern states, the rate could exceed 20 per cent, reflecting cultural and socioeconomic factors contributing to early childbearing.
As a parent or guardian, being aware of the signs of pregnancy is crucial to addressing the situation with care and understanding.
Here are some signs to look out for that may indicate that your child is pregnant, along with practical advice on how to handle such a delicate matter:
Unexplained mood swings:
Teenage girls are known for their fluctuating moods due to hormonal changes, but extreme or sudden mood swings might indicate something more serious.
A female and child rights expert, Mercy Chepaka, said if a teenager becomes unusually irritable, depressed, or anxious, and these changes seem more pronounced than typical teenage behaviour, it could be a sign of pregnancy.
She added, “Hormonal changes associated with pregnancy can significantly affect a young person’s emotional state. Pay attention to any signs of excessive moodiness, heightened sensitivity, or unexplained outbursts. While mood swings alone do not confirm pregnancy, they may warrant a closer look into your child’s well-being.”
Changes in physical appearance:
A medical doctor with a private hospital in Delta State, Dr. Benita Igweh, said pregnancy could bring about noticeable physical changes, which might be difficult to overlook.
Speaking on some of the common signs parents should watch out for, she highlighted weight gain, morning sickness, and swollen abdomen as some of the physical signs.
For weight gain, she explained, “Sudden or unusual weight gain, particularly in the abdominal area, could be indicative of pregnancy. However, it is essential to differentiate between normal weight changes and those associated with pregnancy.”
She also said nausea and vomiting, particularly in the morning, are common early symptoms of pregnancy.
“If your child frequently complains of nausea or is frequently absent from school due to sickness, it may be worth investigating further,” the physician added.
According to Igweh, as the pregnancy progresses, the abdomen may start swelling visibly.
“Although this is more apparent in later stages, as early signs may still be noticeable. If you notice these physical changes, consider discussing them with your child in a supportive and non-judgmental manner,” she advised.
Isolation, avoiding social activities:
After discovering that they are pregnant, teenagers might begin to withdraw from social activities and isolate themselves from friends and family.
The women and child rights expert, Chepaka, said this behaviour could stem from embarrassment, fear, or a desire to keep their condition hidden.
“If your child starts avoiding social gatherings, spending excessive time alone, or seems uninterested in activities they previously enjoyed, it could be a red flag. While there can be other reasons for such behaviour, it is important to approach the situation with empathy and offer support rather than making assumptions,” she said.
Changes in eating habits:
According to Igweh, pregnancy often affects a person’s appetite and eating habits. She identified cravings, avoidance of certain foods, and sensitivity to food smells as signs to look out for.
She noted, “Pregnant individuals frequently experience cravings for specific foods. If your child suddenly expresses strong cravings for particular types of food or exhibits unusual eating patterns, it may be worth paying attention to.
“Conversely, some pregnant individuals develop aversions to foods they once enjoyed. If your child has suddenly stopped eating certain foods or exhibits unusual food preferences, it could be a sign of pregnancy. Monitoring these changes can provide insights, but remember that changes in eating habits can also result from other factors, such as stress or dietary changes.”
Increased fatigue, reduced energy:
A retired midwife in Rivers State, Alamina Tuotamuno-Atemie, said pregnancy often leads to increased fatigue and a noticeable drop in energy levels.
According to her, a drop in energy levels alone is not definitive, as other factors such as academic stress or lack of sleep could also cause tiredness.
She said, “If your child is frequently exhausted, complains of feeling tired even after a full night’s sleep, or lacks the energy to engage in routine activities, it could be a sign of pregnancy. Hormonal changes and the physical demands of carrying a child can contribute to these feelings of fatigue.”
How to approach the situation:
Giving extra advice to parents, Chepaka said discovering that your child might be pregnant is undoubtedly challenging.
She advised parents to approach the situation with empathy and understanding. She said, “Create a safe space for them to express their feelings and concerns without fear of judgment or punishment. Let them know you are there to support them through this difficult time.” The expert added that consulting with healthcare professionals and counsellors at an early stage is essential.
“These consultants can provide valuable guidance on how to handle the situation and offer support to you and your child,” she added.
